As an individual, when do you trust someone (a friend, a relative, a partner or anyone for that matter of fact).Most probably, when you feel heard, when you feel accepted as you are, when you feel loved and cared. So, what do you think should make our children trust us with their secrets, thoughts, dreams, desires, fears or any emotional issue? How can we become our children’s best BET?

Do they need welcoming, acceptable, loving space curated of past conditioning, worldly expectations and most importantly parental hierarchy with the golden rule of being heard, acknowledged being key factor.
Most parents come up with questions like these —
“We love them and we are doing discipline for their good?”
“We have to make them capable of sustaining in real world and if we accept them then they might just end up on couch in front of screen”
“We know better and we have to create boundaries “
Does any of it sound familiar to you?
I agree that children need boundaries and our guidance but not as a fearful, hierarchical parent but as a LEADER.
A Leader who understands them, accepts their strengths and bring forth their potetnial, listens to them, leads them not only by motivation but by example as well.

I believe every parent is a leader if he /she follows his/her parental instincts and work around his/ her past conditioning.
To lead, to earn trust, to have connective parenting, ask yourself a question – what do I see when my child does x,y,z ? Rather then what do I do when he does x , y z ? It helps create awareness of what it is in the present moment (if you don’t attach any label and don’t judge it with your preconditioned thoughts) and gives your perspective to help your child grow confidence and trust in you.
Remember you are your child’s BEST BET and your child can’t have a better leader then you .